http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/4579681.stm
Step by step guide on improving charisma and becoming well liked and personable.
There are great tips including how to use body language effectively and speaking to groups of people - something a lot of people find daunting and scary!
Read the article to see Professor Richard Wisemans ideas and tips on how to improve your social life.
Wednesday 9 December 2009
Monday 7 December 2009
The art of charisma by Teri
Imagine if you could radiate and attract the energies you truly desire into your life? Be a true living magnet by developing your charisma and allow the magic of attracting opportunities into your life! Discover the "secrets" that you naturally possess, from your body language, smile, and voice, to how you present yourself is key to being charismatic. Unleash it and the potential for success is yours!
Saturday 5 December 2009
What is charisma and who has it? How can we learn from them and develop ourselves and self esteem and confidence?
What exactly is Charisma? Most would agree that it is a magical, illusive, personal quality, divinely endowed on some people more than others. One thing is for certain, it is more easily identified than defined. It is the secret to being liked and agreed with by others. It is the much sought-after quality that causes people to envy others because of their congeniality and ease at which they interact with people. Charisma, like many other character traits, may be gifted more to some, but regardless of your given level, charisma, like any other skill, can be further developed.
It is officially defined as "an unusual ability to influence people and arouse devotion" and "a personal attractiveness that enables you to influence others." Other definitions describe it as "a gift, the ability to charm or influence people" and "appeal, magnetism, presence and leadership ability." Dr. Tony Alessandra defines charisma as "the ability to influence others positively by connecting with them physically, emotionally, and intellectually." Harvard anthropologist Charles Lindholm defines it as "above all, a relationship, a mutual mingling of the inner selves of leader and follower."
Charisma certainly has several key components, Dr. Alessandra choosing to summarize them as intellectual, physical and emotional. Intellectual charisma is often characterized by an impressive vocabulary and an ability to draw out the best and most thoughtful ideas from others. A well-read person with an impressive and resonating speaking style is usually associated with being very charismatic. A person who is extremely well educated but not arrogant might too be considered as charismatic. Leadership ability is often associated with charisma.
Physical charisma is often evident simply because of ones commanding presence and impressive physical stature. It may also be embellished by the relative attractiveness of that person, whether male or female. A great handshake, a confident, articulate voice and positive eye contact that conveys "I am interested in learning more about you and respect you immensely" are all means of conveying charisma. Great posture, proximity and even wardrobe all adds to a persons' charismatic quotient.
Emotional charisma is conveyed by a sense of being a deep thinker or one who is willing to ponder the larger picture. These people have a tendency to bring out the best in the rest of us by causing us to dig deeper emotionally and seek out better answers to the challenges in life. They see more in us than we sometimes see in ourselves. They are both motivating and captivating people.
Charismatic people have a "twinkle" or "sparkle" in their eye. You know what I mean. They have the essence of a positive and energizing manner of thought and immediately are able to transfer that feeling to others. These traits allow the charismatic person to connect easily with others. A charismatic person will illuminate a room by simply walking into it. We have all experienced this feeling as we have personally witnessed the change of mood or emotional intensity in a room simply because of the presence of an individual who has just entered.
A great example of a well known charismatic person is former president Bill Clinton. Whether or not you agree with his politics or antics, most people would agree that he might arguably be one of the most charismatic leaders of our time. Why? Was he always correct? Did he have the total support of the Congress or the American people? Did other world leaders always see things his way? Was he faultless? Of course he was not. He was never any of those things.
What President Clinton has is an uncanny ability to persuade people to his point of view. He has the ability to make a connection with people at all levels by being sincerely interested in them. His influence on others is profound. He has a commanding physical presence, yet maintains a boyish charm. He is extremely intelligent and well-read. He is articulate yet not at all condescending. Many would describe him as handsome. He has possessed and experienced the power of the Presidency of the United States. He also has that "sparkle" in his eye. The man has great charisma!
Can you be charismatic like President Clinton? Certainly you can. You already have some charisma, certain strengths and abilities that others find attractive. Develop these. Look people in the eye. Listen carefully when you are conversing. Take a genuine interest in their point of view. Be quick to forgive minor errors and sincerely issue compliments and polite gratitude where appropriate. You may not be able to do anything about your physical stature, but you can still have a commanding presence by means of your confidence level, your posture, your voice and your eye contact.
Charisma is not merely a gift from God that was bestowed upon some people, but given to all. You have some charisma, just like President Clinton. Determine your strengths and build on those first. Target other areas where you would like to grow and get busy. Making the effort to further develop your charisma is truly gratifying and will surely pay you back in spades.
It is officially defined as "an unusual ability to influence people and arouse devotion" and "a personal attractiveness that enables you to influence others." Other definitions describe it as "a gift, the ability to charm or influence people" and "appeal, magnetism, presence and leadership ability." Dr. Tony Alessandra defines charisma as "the ability to influence others positively by connecting with them physically, emotionally, and intellectually." Harvard anthropologist Charles Lindholm defines it as "above all, a relationship, a mutual mingling of the inner selves of leader and follower."
Charisma certainly has several key components, Dr. Alessandra choosing to summarize them as intellectual, physical and emotional. Intellectual charisma is often characterized by an impressive vocabulary and an ability to draw out the best and most thoughtful ideas from others. A well-read person with an impressive and resonating speaking style is usually associated with being very charismatic. A person who is extremely well educated but not arrogant might too be considered as charismatic. Leadership ability is often associated with charisma.
Physical charisma is often evident simply because of ones commanding presence and impressive physical stature. It may also be embellished by the relative attractiveness of that person, whether male or female. A great handshake, a confident, articulate voice and positive eye contact that conveys "I am interested in learning more about you and respect you immensely" are all means of conveying charisma. Great posture, proximity and even wardrobe all adds to a persons' charismatic quotient.
Emotional charisma is conveyed by a sense of being a deep thinker or one who is willing to ponder the larger picture. These people have a tendency to bring out the best in the rest of us by causing us to dig deeper emotionally and seek out better answers to the challenges in life. They see more in us than we sometimes see in ourselves. They are both motivating and captivating people.
Charismatic people have a "twinkle" or "sparkle" in their eye. You know what I mean. They have the essence of a positive and energizing manner of thought and immediately are able to transfer that feeling to others. These traits allow the charismatic person to connect easily with others. A charismatic person will illuminate a room by simply walking into it. We have all experienced this feeling as we have personally witnessed the change of mood or emotional intensity in a room simply because of the presence of an individual who has just entered.
A great example of a well known charismatic person is former president Bill Clinton. Whether or not you agree with his politics or antics, most people would agree that he might arguably be one of the most charismatic leaders of our time. Why? Was he always correct? Did he have the total support of the Congress or the American people? Did other world leaders always see things his way? Was he faultless? Of course he was not. He was never any of those things.
What President Clinton has is an uncanny ability to persuade people to his point of view. He has the ability to make a connection with people at all levels by being sincerely interested in them. His influence on others is profound. He has a commanding physical presence, yet maintains a boyish charm. He is extremely intelligent and well-read. He is articulate yet not at all condescending. Many would describe him as handsome. He has possessed and experienced the power of the Presidency of the United States. He also has that "sparkle" in his eye. The man has great charisma!
Can you be charismatic like President Clinton? Certainly you can. You already have some charisma, certain strengths and abilities that others find attractive. Develop these. Look people in the eye. Listen carefully when you are conversing. Take a genuine interest in their point of view. Be quick to forgive minor errors and sincerely issue compliments and polite gratitude where appropriate. You may not be able to do anything about your physical stature, but you can still have a commanding presence by means of your confidence level, your posture, your voice and your eye contact.
Charisma is not merely a gift from God that was bestowed upon some people, but given to all. You have some charisma, just like President Clinton. Determine your strengths and build on those first. Target other areas where you would like to grow and get busy. Making the effort to further develop your charisma is truly gratifying and will surely pay you back in spades.
Friday 4 December 2009
How to get charisma and attract women. Confidence and attractiveness.
When you walk into a party, are you the one that everybody turns their head to check out? When you are walking down the street, do people, stop in their tracks, and slowly turn to see who that compellingly charismatic person was (you) that passed them by? When you are in group that is throwing around mindless chatter, and you start to open your mouth, do all the people immediately stop and turn to listen to your honeyed words of wisdom?
If you haven't been able to discover yet what it is that can easily make this person you, don't worry. Most people haven't. But because you are reading this now, you are about to discover a secret that is simple to understand, and easy to apply. It does take a little bit of practice. But when you do start to practice this on a regular basis, you will build up a sense of self confidence that will radiate so powerfully that you will naturally and unbelievably draw people towards you. Not only will you be turning heads at parties and other social gatherings, but you will have such a positive outlook on life in general, you'll wonder why you didn't discover this earlier.
I've written about this extensively on my blog. If you'd like, you can easily read several or a few articles at your convenience. What I'm talking about here is charisma. Charisma is simply the ability to make somebody feel a little bit better because of an interaction with you. And you don't even have to talk to them. A smile works just as well. All you need to practice doing is quiet your mind, and pay attention to the other person. Watch their face, listen to the tone of their voice, listen to words that they emphasize a little bit more than other words. Because you do this, they will realize that you are not a selfish "me first" person that they might otherwise encounter. If you read some of my other articles on my blog under the appropriate categories, I talk about many other techniques to help you do this.
And the important key is to start wherever your are comfortable. If holding eye contact is too much, that's ok. Just say "hi" really quickly without really looking at them. When you discover that most people are generally friendly and will respond to you in kind, you will really understand how easy this is. Once you can hold eye contact, move up to a smile while holding eye contact. Next are general compliments, whatever nice things you feel like throwing out. The fantastic thing about this is when you start doing this on a regular basis, you will develop a charismatic glow that will draw people to you like you've never thought possible.
The sooner you start to do this, the sooner you will realize the ultimate secret about developing charisma: People everywhere are all waiting for somebody else to make the first move, to start the conversation, to begin the interaction. Let that person be YOU.
If you haven't been able to discover yet what it is that can easily make this person you, don't worry. Most people haven't. But because you are reading this now, you are about to discover a secret that is simple to understand, and easy to apply. It does take a little bit of practice. But when you do start to practice this on a regular basis, you will build up a sense of self confidence that will radiate so powerfully that you will naturally and unbelievably draw people towards you. Not only will you be turning heads at parties and other social gatherings, but you will have such a positive outlook on life in general, you'll wonder why you didn't discover this earlier.
I've written about this extensively on my blog. If you'd like, you can easily read several or a few articles at your convenience. What I'm talking about here is charisma. Charisma is simply the ability to make somebody feel a little bit better because of an interaction with you. And you don't even have to talk to them. A smile works just as well. All you need to practice doing is quiet your mind, and pay attention to the other person. Watch their face, listen to the tone of their voice, listen to words that they emphasize a little bit more than other words. Because you do this, they will realize that you are not a selfish "me first" person that they might otherwise encounter. If you read some of my other articles on my blog under the appropriate categories, I talk about many other techniques to help you do this.
And the important key is to start wherever your are comfortable. If holding eye contact is too much, that's ok. Just say "hi" really quickly without really looking at them. When you discover that most people are generally friendly and will respond to you in kind, you will really understand how easy this is. Once you can hold eye contact, move up to a smile while holding eye contact. Next are general compliments, whatever nice things you feel like throwing out. The fantastic thing about this is when you start doing this on a regular basis, you will develop a charismatic glow that will draw people to you like you've never thought possible.
The sooner you start to do this, the sooner you will realize the ultimate secret about developing charisma: People everywhere are all waiting for somebody else to make the first move, to start the conversation, to begin the interaction. Let that person be YOU.
Thursday 3 December 2009
Seven figure swagger. How to develop your swagger, mystery and charisma
The way you carry yourself, dress, talk, or even walk, can either attract a potential mate or repel her. In other words you need to have some swagger. So to avoid being rejected before you even say a word, you need to do the following:
1. Carefully look at your wardrobe and figure out what you need to change. What you wear says a lot about you. Which is why you should get rid of the clothes with holes in them, and outfits that are old and outdated. You should also take into consideration your choice of footwear. Most women prefer shoes or leather boots on a man over sneakers.
** To get a better sense of style, purchase a recent GQ (or even Playboy) magazine and look at the fashion sections. The clothes that the male models wear are always in style and rated high according to many women. If money's an issue, go to a non-expensive clothing store and ask a woman who works in the store for her opinion on the best types of outfits to choose. Because after all who would know more about what a woman want- than an actual woman.
2. Shave...and pay attention to your smell. Ditch the "5'oclock shadow" and overbearing cologne. Personal hygiene is one of the most critical parts in attracting a mate. You want to look like you care about your image and how you smell. If a woman can smell you from a mile away...it's not a good thing.
** A woman smell is much greater than that of a man. So if you choose to put on cologne, only spray a little bit on. Inside tip: The best thing to do is use unscented deodorants and soaps because us guys carry a natural pheromone which alone may potentially attract a woman.
So you see just making small changes in your style and image, can have a huge affect on how a woman judges you at first glance. So start attracting women today!
1. Carefully look at your wardrobe and figure out what you need to change. What you wear says a lot about you. Which is why you should get rid of the clothes with holes in them, and outfits that are old and outdated. You should also take into consideration your choice of footwear. Most women prefer shoes or leather boots on a man over sneakers.
** To get a better sense of style, purchase a recent GQ (or even Playboy) magazine and look at the fashion sections. The clothes that the male models wear are always in style and rated high according to many women. If money's an issue, go to a non-expensive clothing store and ask a woman who works in the store for her opinion on the best types of outfits to choose. Because after all who would know more about what a woman want- than an actual woman.
2. Shave...and pay attention to your smell. Ditch the "5'oclock shadow" and overbearing cologne. Personal hygiene is one of the most critical parts in attracting a mate. You want to look like you care about your image and how you smell. If a woman can smell you from a mile away...it's not a good thing.
** A woman smell is much greater than that of a man. So if you choose to put on cologne, only spray a little bit on. Inside tip: The best thing to do is use unscented deodorants and soaps because us guys carry a natural pheromone which alone may potentially attract a woman.
So you see just making small changes in your style and image, can have a huge affect on how a woman judges you at first glance. So start attracting women today!
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